kinX Discussion Group

You’re invited! Enrich your understanding of kink, BDSM, relationships and sex by joining us for 2 hours of warm, lively, and thoughtful discussion.

Held on the third Tuesday of every month, the kinX Discussion is a free, informal discussion group for anyone over the age of 18. We meet monthly to discuss issues of mutual interest concerning bondage, discipline, domination, submission, sadism, masochism and other kink related topics.

Although this is a Club X SD event, you need not be a member to attend. The event is free but, please join me in supporting the venue.

This is a Club X SD event brought forth with a deep sense of community. Join us with your questions, hopes, thoughts, experiences and stories. Please bring your open mind, good cheer and camaraderie. Everyone is welcome.

Here’s what to expect:

The room is open at 6:30pm so we can find seats and get food and drink ordered. The meeting is free and you need not order food or drink. Our group also makes sure that the server is both ok with, and old enough, for our adult discussions.

I sit where I can see & hear everyone. There is no assigned seating so feel free to sit anywhere. If you’re shy, you can sit by me.

I start every meeting with a self-introduction and take a moment to remind the group of our intentions. I remind everyone about our Agreements. I also point out that the server is cleared and that if you appreciate the service, to please tip generously; groups are hard on the servers.

Then we have a quick icebreaker and dive into the discussions. Everything we do at the kinX Discussion is voluntary. That includes the icebreaker and all the discussions. I encourage people to express themselves freely (we meet in a private room) but nobody is required to speak. People that want only to listen are equally welcome!

I will ASK for a name you wish to be known by for the evening, and verify you are over 18 if you appear young.

We do have some agreements to keep the discussion running smoothly:

I ask that only one person speak at a time, loudly and clearly. This helps people hear what’s being said and shows respect for the speaker, the contribution and the speaker’s ideas. This includes refraining from side-talk as well please.

There are attendees that have trouble hearing or speaking. I encourage them to sit near the middle.

I reserve the right to steer you back on topic if you take off on a tangent or become repetitive, Please be mindful of limited time and other attendees wanting to share.

People raise their hands to be called on. Unfortunately, I may miss someone’s hand. Please help me by pointing out someone I’ve missed. I don’t want to miss anyone’s contribution.

Please keep in mind that this is a discussion group in a public venue. This is an arena for exploring IDEAS only. Please reserve play and demonstrations for another time and place.

Please respect other people's privacy and refrain from repeating anybody else's experiences without their permission. The ideal is: What's Said in kinX Discussion Stays in kinX Discussion.

If you have a question, please ask it! There are no dumb questions-we learn by asking. We ALL had to learn what we know about Kink/BDSM and are happy to pass it along.

After the discussion concludes, we take a few minutes for other Club X and San Diego Kink/BDSM event announcements. You can join Club X, renew your membership, purchase event tickets or ask questions. We are usually headed to the parking lot by 9:15 pm although you're welcome to linger and schmooze a bit.

The kinX Discussion was started to fill a need that had existed in San Diego for some time (previously known as Rick's Rap, then Coed BDSM Discussion) and has been a vibrant fixture in the San Diego Kink/BDSM scene for over thirty years.

If you’re shy, uncertain or the least bit hesitant, you should know that we all had the same feelings at some point. For us, there were wonderful, friendly folks that welcomed us into their community. Now it's our turn to welcome you.

Facilitator Bio: Ronin (He/Him) has been involved in the kink community for over a decade. He has volunteered in numerous ways over the years, including Leather Realm Board, KinX Discussion Facilitator, Club X DM Coordinator, and Club X Board. Ronin currently most aligns with being ENM, a Voyeur and Sensual/Impact Top.

Registration is not Required

I ask that we agree:
This is an intentionally accessible, inclusive, and safe space. Disparaging language or actions are not acceptable. To request accommodations, contact the event host or any Club X Director.

Participation is always voluntary. I will ASK for a name you wish to be known by for the evening, and verify you are over 18 if you appear young.

Please silence your cell phones.

Raise your hand and I will call on you. If I miss you it's not intentional, I might not be able to see you.

One person talks at a time. Please speak so everyone can hear you. Please no side conversations. Some attendees have difficulty with hearing or speech.

Please be mindful of limited time, and other attendees wanting to share.

I reserve the right to steer you back on topic if you take off on a tangent or become repetitive.

Please respect others' privacy. Do not share other people's private stories.

This is a discussion group only, for sharing our own opinions and experiences. It's not a class, demo, or debate.